What would calm do?
What would peace do?
What would relaxation do?
Those are the questions I'm asking myself today, thanks to an article written by Martha Beck, in O Magazine, entitled Our Buddies, Our Selves. In it, Martha talks about the two sides of her...Fang (the serious proper one) and Buddy (the playful, loving one) and how each was created: Fang by society and family, Buddy by intuition.
Fang is the good one. The one who follows the rules, the one who is "stable."
Buddy, on the other hand, gets tattoos, smiles, and hugs you.
Although most of us listen to Fang, as Martha notes..."Buddy's usually the one who is right."
In Martha's words, Fang shouts... "Don't screw this up!!!!" Buddy, on the other hand, takes a softer approach...she evokes calm not fear.
I don't often read articles in magazines, much less do the exercises. Still, considering the yucky space I've been in lately, I've got nothing to lose.
Slowly, I close my eyes and follow the first exercise.
The assignment? Think of situations that are keeping you up at night (in my case, health, pain, people). Then, ask yourself, WWBD (What Would Buddy do)?
Calm: Take a vacation...not with anybody...by yourself. To Mexico, the Mountains, wherever. Go, unplug, rest, and put any energy you have...into art, music, and health.
Relaxation: Yes. Unplug from the world. Schedule appointments for massages, facial, pedicures. Rent a cottage by the sea. Don't worry about the money or the timing or any other detail. Just give yourself space...you need it.
Peace: Let go of anything that does not bring joy, love, energy, or satisfaction. Lyme Boards, friends, clothing, car rides, anything. You have sooo little precious energy...give it to you and those you treasure. Let the rest just fall away.
And so it begins....
Bye bye, Fang. Hell-O, Buddy.
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