The last two days, I've apologized to two people. I'm not sure how it started. It's not like I woke up with a check list of folks to make amends to. Still, as with anything right now, when opportunities present, I take advantage.
My first apology went to "Sam" (not her real name)--a friend/acquaintance of mine that I used to volunteer with.
I've been thinking about her a lot lately because she suffers from years of undiagnosed seizures and a couple of other things (lesions in her brain, etc). Is it possible she has Lyme Disease?
I adore Sam, but, when we worked together, it was tough to count on her. In frustration, I'd often drum my fingers on the desk waiting for her to arrive for our scheduled missed phone calls. I knew she had health problems, but I wasn't sympathetic. My attitude? "If you're not well enough to participate, don't participate, but I need to know."
Looking back now, I can see how unsupported she must have felt. In her world, she was just struggling to keep it together and live normal life. In mine, I was frustrated and wanted results. Luckily, we both have a sense of humor. :)
Yesterday, we finally caught up and commiserated over illness; doctors, symptoms, cooking, stupid things people say (including me)--nothing was sacred. Thankfully, she accepted my apology. Ahh...hindsight. We also made plans to catch up next week...hopefully I'll be up for it.
My second apology went to Dee (also not her real name)...a lady who works at my local YMCA. We met two years ago when I phoned in to inquire about my then "cancelled" gym membership...which was still being charged to my debit card. At the time, my father-in-law had just collapsed from cancer and my house had just been robbed so I didn't take kindly to her response that they couldn't reverse the charges.
Me: You will reverse the charges or I will call the Better Business Bureau.
Her: Are you threatening me?
(Use your imagination from there).
Anyway, when I saw her today, it seemed like the perfect excuse to make nice and bury the hatchet (FYI: she didn't remember the incident, but it made me feel better).
What can I say???? Sometimes love IS having to say you're sorry.
Altered Today: Friendships, conscience, humanity, humility, healing